We all want the very best for our children, and we want them to have a stable, happy and healthy life.
Whilst we always think that as their parents we know what’s best for them, as they get older they’re going to develop their own opinions and beliefs about life and this can cause conflict if we’re not always in agreement with each other.
However, we do have to remember, that as much as we should respect our children and teach them to respect us, sometimes we need to remember that we are the parents and we need to show them this, too.
This can be especially true if we have to make a major life decision that affects the whole family, such as moving to a new country or city that’s far away from where they’ve grown up.
In this post we’re going to look at some of the ways in which you can prepare your kids for a big move so that it can have as little negative impact on everyone as possible and so that you don’t have to worry about things like a kid running away or becoming depressed or anxious because they don’t want to move.
In this post we’re going to look at some of the ways in which you can prepare your kids for a big move so that it can have as little negative impact on everyone as possible and so that you don’t have to worry about things like a kid running away or becoming depressed or anxious because they don’t want to move.
Let them know as early as possible:
Especially if you’re in fear of a negative backlash when you tell your kids about your plans to move, you may be tempted to put it off, but this is probably the worst thing you could do and could actually lead to them being quite badly affected by it depending on how upset they are about the move. As soon as you know there’s any real possibility that you’ll be moving, then you need to sit everyone down together and talk it over as a family instead of just dropping it on them at last minute.
Listen to their concerns:
It’s normal that your children will have concerns about moving - they may initially react quite badly or they may become silent, but it’s important to let them know that you are there to listen to and answer any concerns they may have about the upcoming move.
Give them lots of information:
Especially if you’re in fear of a negative backlash when you tell your kids about your plans to move, you may be tempted to put it off, but this is probably the worst thing you could do and could actually lead to them being quite badly affected by it depending on how upset they are about the move. As soon as you know there’s any real possibility that you’ll be moving, then you need to sit everyone down together and talk it over as a family instead of just dropping it on them at last minute.
Listen to their concerns:
It’s normal that your children will have concerns about moving - they may initially react quite badly or they may become silent, but it’s important to let them know that you are there to listen to and answer any concerns they may have about the upcoming move.
Give them lots of information:
Instead of just telling your kids that you’re moving and that’s that, a great way to help them feel better and understand things, depending on their age is to answer questions and share information with them. This could be things like photos of the new house you’re moving to, let them know if they’re going to finally be able to have their own room, show them what cool things there are to do in the new town or city and help them potentially get excited about moving.
Reassure them:
One of the main reasons kids often fear moving away from the place they know is that they’re afraid of leaving their friends and not being able to make new ones. It’s important that you show them you’re aware of this and that you’ll take the steps to ensure that, not only can they keep a good line of communication with their friends, but that they’ll be able to make new ones.
Ask for their input and include them:
Although you’re the parent and you have good reasons for needing to move which ultimately is your decision as an adult to make for your family, it’s important to understand that it still affects the whole family and that your kids need to feel like they’re part of the decision and not just forced in to it. Ask them for their input on things and assure them that you’re making this decision for all the right reasons. These simple suggestions are helpful tips to create a lifetime bond with your child, as always keep it Southern Y'all!
Reassure them:
One of the main reasons kids often fear moving away from the place they know is that they’re afraid of leaving their friends and not being able to make new ones. It’s important that you show them you’re aware of this and that you’ll take the steps to ensure that, not only can they keep a good line of communication with their friends, but that they’ll be able to make new ones.
Ask for their input and include them:
Although you’re the parent and you have good reasons for needing to move which ultimately is your decision as an adult to make for your family, it’s important to understand that it still affects the whole family and that your kids need to feel like they’re part of the decision and not just forced in to it. Ask them for their input on things and assure them that you’re making this decision for all the right reasons. These simple suggestions are helpful tips to create a lifetime bond with your child, as always keep it Southern Y'all!
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